It is appropriate to tell your partner when you are putting them at risk. For example, if you have a virus like herpes, then you need to tell your partner whenever you begin to have unpretected sex, since it can be transfered at any time. If you have something like HIV/AIDS, then that needs to be addressed at the beginning of the relationship. It would not be fair to your partner to fall in love and let them believe that one day you two will bet married and have a huge family, because that is never going to happen, unless your partner doesn't mind contracting the virus and giving it to thier children. If you are a SERIOUS condom wearer (don't think that's a word...lol) then you should confident that if you have a STD that is treatable, you would not be putting your partner at risk. But there are always more than on side to a story, and more than one way to cut it. Every situation is different and must be approached with that mind set. Only you know what could happen to your relationship if you reveal something like that...BUT WE ALL KNOWS WHAT WILL HAPPEN IF YOU DONT!!!
Silence can be golden, but not in this case!!! Christina answered the question very well!!! Though it may be uncomfortable or embarrassing, it is a must that one lets their partner know their status before any sexual intercourse. It is even wiser to tell them before any thought of intercourse, even if they weren't ever planning on having sex! I say this because some STDs can be transmitted just from physical contact, such as scabies, which can be spread simply from holding hands or sharing a jacket. Though one may have fear of their partner leaving them if they reveal they have an STD, in any relationship, HONESTY and COMMUNICATION is key. I'm sure the outcome of the situation would be a lot better if a person informs their partner in the beginning as oppose to finding out after a visit to the doctor!
Absolutely! I think a person should not only tell their partner, but show proof of tests and do it together. Being open and honest is important in any relationship. Being dishonest dosen't get anyone anywhere. When becoming sexually active you have to consider both the emotional and physical consequences to your actions and decisions. If u truely care for someone you want to protect them in any way. DON'T WAIT! Get everything out in the open first, give your partner all their options and let them make the decison. If they truely care they will look at the situation from every angle and make a decsion that is best for everyone involved. But not sharing information that could mean the difference between life and death is not only selfish, but evil.
Relationships can only last (work) if they are founded on honesty and trust. So if you have an STD of any kind, meaning even if it’s going to be gone before you become intimate with someone then you need to be honest with the person and tell them. Yeah this is not first date material, but if you see yourself dating for more than a week then this is definitely a topic of choice. There are too many people in the world with STDs because their partner didn't share important information with them. Another great thing to do is to both get tested before becoming intimate. Don’t be scared to ask to see the paperwork, your word is good, but the paper is that much better.
Nice blog...and so important. STDs have completely changed the rules of dating and relationships. For those sexually active males and females who have tested positive for a sexually transmitted disease, you absolutely MUST advise any current, future or past partner of your status. Period.
Of course years and years ago when I was a college student, all dates sus not lead to sexual relationships. There really were nive guys on campus who you could out with and maybe see a movie, eat a hamburger, walk in the park, sit in the dorm and watch television, or something benign like that. But I guess times have changed.
The African American community is quietly being destroyed because of STDs and the refusal of people to do the right thing.
I look forward to seeing some serious discussions as well as informative posts about the STD stats, the long-term impact, and more.
I totally agree with professor Kinchlow's comment. If you choose to engage in sexual activities, you MUST deal with the consequences of your actions. This means getting tested and sharing your status with your partner(s). Telling your partner that your positive for an STD may put your relationship in jeopardy, but it is the right thing to do.
Great topic for discussion!I believe that the person who chooses to date and has an STD must disclose all information to their partner. This could be difficult because you don't know if the relationship will be meaningful right away. Still I would say honesty is the best policy!
It is appropriate to tell your partner when you are putting them at risk. For example, if you have a virus like herpes, then you need to tell your partner whenever you begin to have unpretected sex, since it can be transfered at any time. If you have something like HIV/AIDS, then that needs to be addressed at the beginning of the relationship. It would not be fair to your partner to fall in love and let them believe that one day you two will bet married and have a huge family, because that is never going to happen, unless your partner doesn't mind contracting the virus and giving it to thier children. If you are a SERIOUS condom wearer (don't think that's a word...lol) then you should confident that if you have a STD that is treatable, you would not be putting your partner at risk. But there are always more than on side to a story, and more than one way to cut it. Every situation is different and must be approached with that mind set. Only you know what could happen to your relationship if you reveal something like that...BUT WE ALL KNOWS WHAT WILL HAPPEN IF YOU DONT!!!
ReplyDeleteSilence can be golden, but not in this case!!! Christina answered the question very well!!! Though it may be uncomfortable or embarrassing, it is a must that one lets their partner know their status before any sexual intercourse. It is even wiser to tell them before any thought of intercourse, even if they weren't ever planning on having sex! I say this because some STDs can be transmitted just from physical contact, such as scabies, which can be spread simply from holding hands or sharing a jacket. Though one may have fear of their partner leaving them if they reveal they have an STD, in any relationship, HONESTY and COMMUNICATION is key. I'm sure the outcome of the situation would be a lot better if a person informs their partner in the beginning as oppose to finding out after a visit to the doctor!
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely! I think a person should not only tell their partner, but show proof of tests and do it together. Being open and honest is important in any relationship. Being dishonest dosen't get anyone anywhere. When becoming sexually active you have to consider both the emotional and physical consequences to your actions and decisions. If u truely care for someone you want to protect them in any way. DON'T WAIT! Get everything out in the open first, give your partner all their options and let them make the decison. If they truely care they will look at the situation from every angle and make a decsion that is best for everyone involved. But not sharing information that could mean the difference between life and death is not only selfish, but evil.
ReplyDeleteRelationships can only last (work) if they are founded on honesty and trust. So if you have an STD of any kind, meaning even if it’s going to be gone before you become intimate with someone then you need to be honest with the person and tell them. Yeah this is not first date material, but if you see yourself dating for more than a week then this is definitely a topic of choice. There are too many people in the world with STDs because their partner didn't share important information with them. Another great thing to do is to both get tested before becoming intimate. Don’t be scared to ask to see the paperwork, your word is good, but the paper is that much better.
ReplyDeleteNice blog...and so important. STDs have completely changed the rules of dating and relationships. For those sexually active males and females who have tested positive for a sexually transmitted disease, you absolutely MUST advise any current, future or past partner of your status. Period.
ReplyDeleteOf course years and years ago when I was a college student, all dates sus not lead to sexual relationships. There really were nive guys on campus who you could out with and maybe see a movie, eat a hamburger, walk in the park, sit in the dorm and watch television, or something benign like that. But I guess times have changed.
The African American community is quietly being destroyed because of STDs and the refusal of people to do the right thing.
I look forward to seeing some serious discussions as well as informative posts about the STD stats, the long-term impact, and more.
I totally agree with professor Kinchlow's comment. If you choose to engage in sexual activities, you MUST deal with the consequences of your actions. This means getting tested and sharing your status with your partner(s). Telling your partner that your positive for an STD may put your relationship in jeopardy, but it is the right thing to do.
ReplyDeleteGreat topic for discussion!I believe that the person who chooses to date and has an STD must disclose all information to their partner. This could be difficult because you don't know if the relationship will be meaningful right away. Still I would say honesty is the best policy!
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